This is my take on how most failed relationships look like. You meet a person, and you become interested in them. You may see a few red flags here and there, but you choose to ignore them. Why? You choose to see the best in them. It would be such a waste for you to leave the relationship just because you let a few red flags throw you off.
For a while, you get delighted at how everything is turning out. You are so excited at how everything seems to be falling into place. But then, things don’t seem to be so great anymore. Once all of the novelty of the relationship starts to become lighter off, the red flags that you used to ignore now demand to be felt. They now command your attention, and you can’t shake them anymore.
You’re worried to try to make things work because you don’t want to be known as a quitter. Anyway, you have always been told that you should never quit on your relationships. You have always been taught that love is worth fighting for and that you should never give up so easily. So, like any good partner, you choose to fight for your relationship. You decide to work double-time to try to keep your relationship together.
But then, over time, you start to see that it’s just a losing battle at this point. You discover that no matter how hard you try, there is no way for you to retrieve the relationship. You realize that your efforts are all going to waste and that it might be time for you to consider the idea of just walking away from it all entirely. You should learn when your heart broken and make a decision for the future relationship.
Eventually, you decide to break things off because you know that you don’t have what it takes to carry the relationship on your own at this point. You’re broken hearted because you were so invested in the relationship. You are so sad because you thought that you would be able to make the relationship last. You are shocked because you felt that this would finally be your chance at finding success at love.
But then, all of your hopes have just fallen down the drain.
What is left for you to do but deal with your grief?
Of course, this might not necessarily be your situation correctly. However, the principles are all the same. You met a guy. You fell in love with a guy. And you had to break things off with this guy. Ultimately, it all ended with you breaking your heart. However, you have to know that your heartbreak is not the finality of the situation.
More than just being an upsetting experience, heartbreak is also a learning opportunity. You have to be able to use this opportunity to pick up a few lessons to help you become stronger and better about your situation. Here are a few lessons that you should have learned by now at this stage of your heartbreak:
1. You need to learn to fall in love with yourself
You have to learn to fall in love with yourself after heartbreak. After a romance with another person doesn’t go your way, you must always find a way to fall back on the love that you have for yourself.
2. You need to appreciate the people who are there for you
You need to show a better sense of gratefulness and appreciation for the people who are there for you. They are there for you at your weakest point, and that’s not something that you can be taking so lightly.
3. You need to be more serious about noticing red flags
When you decide to date again, you need to take these red flags more critically. You shouldn’t be so anxious to the point that you become willing to ignore them. You always have to take these red flags seriously. And you have to take some time to think about whether they are worth addressing or just tolerating.
4. You need to learn that you’re fully healed before you’re ready again
You have to learn when you’re fully healed before you decide to jump right back into the waters again. You mustn’t carry any considerable exciting baggage from your previous relationship into a new one. You are only setting yourself up for more heartache. And it’s utterly unfair to the person you’re dating.
5. You need to learn when it’s okay to walk away
If you are ever going to try your hand at love in the future again, then you have to know that you aren’t automatically going to find success just because it’s your second time around the block. If things don’t work out for you, then you need to learn when it’s time for you to walk away.